We Are Unique, We Are Similar

As the news continues to evolve and families are asked to take increasingly strict precautions to prevent the spread of COVID-19, many families across the globe are finding themselves spending more time together. While balancing the stresses and concerns of recent changes to work, school and our everyday lives can be challenging, one positive byproduct of the times we’re in is that many families are finding that they have the opportunity to spend more time together than they have in a long time.

If you’re one of the many families who finds themselves with lots of family time on their hands, you might be wondering how to harness this time in a way that will allow your family to become stronger, closer and more bonded.

While there’s a lot to be said for breaking out board games or watching a favorite movie, families can also use the time they have together to intentionally learn more about one another. Doing so will promote feelings of closeness which can be comforting during the uncertain times we’re experiencing now and lead to long term relationship growth. Check out the activity below and spend some time thinking and learning more about the people with whom you spend every day!

Materials: Paper, pencil/pen/marker

How to Play:

The goal of this game is to come up with as many traits or qualities as you can for each round. Play this game during a shared meal, during afternoon quiet time or as a wind-down at the end of the day!

Round 1: Shared

During round one, have each family member take turns coming up with a trait or quality that applies to all members of the family. Encourage each family member to think as deeply as they can and to avoid listing surface-level characteristics. Have a notetaker list each quality that family members come up with. If younger members of the family have trouble coming up with a shared trait or quality, consider asking them the questions below to get them thinking:

  • Are there any activities that we all enjoy?
  • What foods do we all like to eat?
  • What experiences do we share?

Round 2: Unique

During round two, have each family member come up with a trait or quality that applies to them but to no one else in the family. Again, encourage each family member to think as deeply as they can and to avoid listing surface-level characteristics. Have a notetaker list each quality that family members come up with. If younger members of the family have trouble coming up with a unique trait or quality, consider asking them the questions below to get them thinking:

  • Are there any activities you enjoy that other family members don’t?
  • Are there any foods that you like to eat that other family members don’t?
  • Are there any special experiences that you have had but other family members have not?

Reflect:

Ask family members:

  • Was it harder to come up with shared traits or unique traits?
  • What is one new thing you learned about a family member?

While disruptions to school, work and everyday life can feel challenging and stressful, taking time to connect as a family can help kids and grown-ups alike feel more grounded during uncertain times. We hope this activity will spark the kind of family conversations that will help you feel strong, connected and bonded!

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